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Sunday, December 31, 2006

Puking toddler

Last night Aislinn threw up three times in bed (another thing that makes me glad she still sleeps with us...less up and down, though there were still the three sets of pajamas she went through). Her crib has been on Leo's side for months now, in preparation for the cosleeper that will be on my side, which meant he got to be the first responder AND the only one besides Aislinn who got any puke on him. She finally settled down between us and slept for about four or five hours, until 7:00, and insisted it was time to get up and eat. We thought this was a good sign, though I was still planning on staying home from church with her. Leo let me stay in bed while he got up with the kids (even though he was the FIRST responder, I also had to get up and help, and I think he's sensitive to the fact that I need to stay rested so I'm not lacking sleep or energy when it's time for the birth. Have I mentioned how great my husband is?). To be on the safe side, Aislinn got toast and applesauce for breakfast (part of a well rounded BRAT diet). But by 9:00, Leo was barrelling into the bedroom announcing, "Andrea! Time to get up!" because she had once again emptied her stomach, this time down his back and onto the floor and wall upstairs while he carried her. I had to chuckle at the sight of him with partially digested food down his back, and teased him that it was usually parents of infants, not toddlers, who had to endure such things.

She has been fine since, and Leo and Audrey are safely at church now. But it just occurred to me that considering Audrey's emergency and a puking Aislinn, it's probably a good thing the baby DIDN'T come on December 26, as I'd been hoping!

Thursday, December 28, 2006

The Christmas season is never complete without a minor catastrophe

Last night I put Audrey to bed and read her the first chapter of Little House on the Prairie, which Santa brought for her. Afterward she wanted to review some verses in her AWANA book, since she will need to recite them when AWANA starts again after Christmas break. It was already getting late, and I thought maybe we should do it another time, but she insisted and crawled to the end of her bed where the book normally is. No book. So she hopped down to look under the bed...and in the process, the pencil she was holding (why? I haven't even thought to ask that until now) poked her in the face, right between her upper lip and nose.

It was a freshly sharpened pencil and it did break the skin. I checked quickly to make sure none of the pencil had broken off inside the wound (it didn't), and then got her quickly to the bathroom to stop the bleeding with a Kleenex. Then I had to figure out: a) how bad was it? b) if it wasn't bad enough to need stitches to *heal*, was it bad enough to need stitches so that it wouldn't scar? The wound definitely gaped open a bit, but it wasn't very big; it was a little more than 1/8 of an inch long, and about half as wide. It closed when I pinched it. I've never had to deal with any kind of open wound like this before, either in myself or my kids, so I wasn't sure if I could even decide how serious it was. Leo kept saying, oh, it's no big deal, it will be fine, but I finally insisted on calling the hospital ER to get their opinion (though I sort of guessed that if there was any question, especially since it was a puncture wound, they would have us come in anyway).

After waiting on the phone for 15 minutes, I finally got a nurse who ultimately agreed I should bring her in. First I had to figure out where the hospital *was* (we just moved here! Though you'd think I would have tracked the place down by now in case we'd need to go there if there's a problem with the baby. D'oh!). I located the hospital on my trusty local map, and we were off, Audrey still in her jammies, robe, and slippers, with her teddy bear in tow.

Thankfully we didn't have to wait too long. The triage nurse took her vital signs and asked the required questions (some, I could tell, were to determine whether this was an accident or something more sinister).

::tangent in the style of mrtl:: I have to confess that, because of some of our less-than-mainstream parenting practices, I am sometimes concerned that trips like this to the ER could result in CPS being called. Some may think this is paranoid, but I have heard stories and even know people to whom this has happened. Some people in social services think that if your kids sleep in your bed and/or you are still breastfeeding past the age of 12 months, you must be abusing them in one or more ways. My experiences this year with my friend, whose child was taken from her for months, have also made me cautious. The intake nurse asked me if Audrey was in school...what the heck is THAT? What does it have to do with anything? My guess is that homeschooling is a red flag, that's what. Also, before we left, the nurse said she needed to check if we needed to speak with a counselor first. Counselor? Huh??

Not to mention we are conservative about some vaccines. Audrey's are currently up-to-date, so at least we didn't have to worry about that this time, but not being up-to-date on vaccines is, I'm guessing, another huge red flag. And I was totally paranoid that some nurse would ask just conversationally if I was going to have the baby at this hospital, and who my doctor was!

At any rate, my guard was up a bit. But in the end it all went well. ::end tangent in the style of mrtl::
We waited just a bit to see another nurse, and then the nurse practitioner, who cleaned the wound with iodine (which stung a little) and then determined that while the wound should be closed, stitches would not be necessary, just a little Dermabond. Big sigh of relief from both Audrey and me! Audrey's last experience with a needle of any kind, when we were getting her last kindergarten shots, resulted in her running away from me in the doctor's office, down the hall, and then being held down by a nurse and me, while two other nurses administered the shots, one in each leg, at the same time. Audrey has admitted since then that the shots hardly hurt at all, and that she would be much braver next time, but she was still anxious and we were both afraid of the possibility of stitches and the preceding shot she would likely need. Medical grade superglue was a different story. It did sting, though, even more than the iodine did, and I could tell she was trying not to cry. She was, in fact, very brave, and I told her so afterward.

Now the only problem is that, because the glue is still a little shiny, the poor kid looks like she has a slightly bloody booger under her nose! And she's very self-conscious, even though she isn't really aware of her boogery appearance. But the glue should wear off by the time she goes back to school in a week and a half or so.

I'm just grateful, though, that:
a) she didn't poke herself in the eye
b) the pencil didn't break off under the skin
c) the gouge wasn't bigger than it was
d) SHE DIDN'T NEED STITCHES!

(And of course, that we got out of the hospital without any of my panic buttons being pushed.)

Monday, December 25, 2006

I totally don't deserve him....

My husband, that is. Or the gift he got me this year.

Before I tell you what he got me, I'll explain why I'm so undeserving. Last Christmas, I asked for an iPod. Very specifically, not just any mp3 player, but an iPod. At least a Shuffle, but preferably a Mini or better. When I unwrapped a Sansa, I am not proud at all to admit that I had a very bad attitude about it, and made sure he knew about it. I acted like a spoiled child, actually.

This year he was asking me which kind of iPod I would want if I did get one now. I let him know that I did not expect nor deserve one this year, but if he really wanted to know, I eventually hoped for one that would hold 1000 songs (not that I have 1000 songs to put on it, but I knew I would be adding to it). But I really did not think I was getting an iPod at all this year. I mean, we just gave ourselves a huge new mortgage and are expecting a new baby. And last year, *I* was the baby.

You can probably guess how this ends...or at least think you do.

Well. He did not get me a Shuffle. Nor did he get me a Mini, since they are not even making those anymore. He also did not get me a Nano.

No, what he actually bought me was a 30 GB video iPod. For real. So not only can I store up to 7500 songs, I can also go to iTunes and download the last two seasons of Lost and watch them on my gadget.

Last year I acted spoiled. This year, I *am* spoiled :) (But I hope I will remember in the future not to act it.)

Sunday, December 24, 2006

Merry Christmas to all

No wise or witty words (do you ever find those here?), just wishes for a joyous, peaceful holiday.

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Ready or not...

***UPDATE***
I made a playlist of music for the birth on the laptop; it added up to some 6 hours of music, so I'm not going to bother burning it to a CD. I'll just set the laptop on a flat surface near the jacuzzi and let it play in random mode. Bonus: while playing around with Windows Media Player, I realized that the cool randomized graphics can make a great visual to focus on during contractions. Some of them are so cool, it's like watching a fire. I could stare for hours.

Bought a few extra receiving blankets. Still wish I could find the old ones, because some are inevitably going to get a little bloody, and I'd prefer that they be old ones! Kids' stocking stuffers are separated into separate bags, so if someone else has to stuff them, at least they will know whose stockings to put them in.

Presents are WRAPPED, all except for one big one of Leo's that I need a packing box for. Packing boxes are in the garage on a high shelf. Leo said he will get the box for me, but also added that I didn't need to wrap anything for him :P (How did he know it was for him??)

Got a new flashlight, since Leo said the old one is unreliable. It takes AA batteries, which we have in abundance, so I don't need to get the batteries. I would strike that off my list, but I don't know how to do that cool strike-out font.

Birth supplies -- explanations may include TMI for some! :)


Birth kit (ordered from Cascade): Received. Contents include Chux pads, gauze, bulb syringe, sterile gloves, cord clamp, sitz bath herbs, measuring tape, a pokey thing to pierce my poor baby's heel (for the PKU), two of those lovely, fashionable mesh underpants, and the all important peri bottle. And a partridge in a pear tree.

Additional items, prepared by me, at the request of my midwife and apprentice:

  • 6-7 towels (plus 3-4 extra for water birth)
  • 6-7 washcloths (applied hot and wet, to prevent tearing)
  • Olive oil (NEED TO BUY AN UNOPENED BOTTLE. Note to Leo: please get EVOO so I can use the leftover for cooking!)
  • 2 large bowls, 1 for puke, 1 for placenta
  • 2 1-gallon Ziploc bags
  • 1 cookie sheet (for sterilizing instruments in oven?)
  • Crock Pot (for heating washcloths)
  • 8 receiving blankets (I have misplaced some of these! Maybe lost in the move. Buy a few at next Target run)
  • 2 baby hats
  • 2 trash bags (home births can generate lots of trash...)
  • Working flashlight with extra batteries (gotta get some D batteries...)
  • Rice sock (probably for cramping after)
  • Change of clothes (hmmm...that old nursing gown is for summer...maybe just some stretch maternity pants and a long-sleeved shirt...like what I've been wearing to bed for months now)
  • Camera (digital and video) (OOH! Better make sure there is an extra battery charged for the digital!)
  • Tripod
  • Fine mesh net for waterbirth (don't ask. If you have given birth or ever witnessed one, you may know that sometimes other, um, STUFF besides the baby emerges while pushing. It can't stay in the tub.)
  • Recharge or Gatorade
  • Honey (quick spoonfuls for extra energy late in labor)
  • Music prepped (Ideally I'll have time to prepare a CD...but last time I just listened to Norah Jones over and over and over again. I didn't want anything else.)
  • Desk lamp (so we can have dim lights in the bathroom)
  • Two sanitary pads cut in half, soaked in witch hazel, and then frozen (for IF I do tear)
Jacuzzi still needs cleaned, run the jets while full with some bleach added. LEO...are you on this???

I brought up from the basement most of the 0-3 baby clothes, and even sorted out the unisex items, so we don't have to go digging in the bin if it's a boy.

I think that's it. I still have a few presents to wrap, but I think I can get that done tonight. Maybe. Tomorrow at the latest. If I get the presents wrapped, and make sure I get everything on the above list that I still need, the baby can come, even before Christmas, and I won't freak.

I think even if I were to go into labor in the next hour without getting anything else done, I wouldn't freak. I'm ready mentally.

Bring it on, baby!!!

Thursday, December 07, 2006

So THIS is what two-year-olds are like

Aislinn turned two last weekend. And oh. my. gosh. Is she ever TWO.

Audrey did not really go through the stereotypical "terrible twos" (a phrase I really don't like anyway). She has always been a high-maintenance drama queen (do I really even like THAT phrase? but it is SO appropriate!), but at least with her, I can more or less predict what will set her off. And since she was high-maintenance from the start, I knew from the start what I was getting myself into.

But Aislinn. She's supposed to be my easy one. She let me sleep longer, sooner. She did not require me to nurse her more frequently than every two to three hours from the very beginning, and quite quickly became an every-four-hour nurser. She did not go from sleep to screaming in two seconds flat.

Well...until a few weeks ago.

The words "NO!" and "MINE!" are so important to her that she even says them in her sleep. And when we hear her say these words in her sleep (usually together), we know that hysterical crying will immediately follow.

The other difference between Audrey and Aislinn was that Audrey was more compliant to our instructions. She didn't always like it, but she would pretty much do what we asked her to do WHEN we asked her to do it, at least at this age. Not so with Aislinn. When we ask her to do something she doesn't want to do, her responses range from ignoring us completely, to rolling her eyes (yes, really, already), to throwing a screaming fit.

I know this is normal two-year-old behavior, but to be honest, I had convinced myself that our success with Audrey was due to our perfection as parents and our wonderful abilities at discipline (just joking! We know we're not perfect parents. But we did think we were pretty effective disciplinarians).

The other thing, which may or may not be related, is that she has just started, for the first time, to display separation anxiety. This again is normal in toddlers...but it usually STARTS at a much younger age, and I thought by now, she would be secure enough to not regress to it. But dropping her off at MOPS or at the church nursery puts her in a screaming fit as well (though she does always calm down after a few minutes...I always wait and make sure). And it's worse if she's being left by Leo, whether at church or even at home with me. Yes, this kid will happily wave bye-bye to Mama any time, but most mornings, it's major trauma when it's time for Leo to go out the door. Or, if she's coming with me and Daddy is staying behind...same story.

Makes me wonder if she has a better idea than we realize of what life will be like when the baby comes! She knows there's a baby in Mama's belly, but how could she know that SHE won't be the youngest, the "baby" anymore? Could she possibly be that perceptive?

Or she could be just teething. Those two-year molars can be horrible.

But I doubt it!

(Oh, and if this wasn't enough, I've just learned that some of the kids in Audrey's class are doing the boyfriend/girlfriend thing. ALREADY!!! They are just first-graders, for Pete's sake! Audrey reported that one boy ALMOST broke up with another girl so he could be her boyfriend. Although I can remember this happening when I was in first grade, and indeed had started to get crushes...I am not ready for this to happen as a mother. Thankfully...Audrey has expressed that she is not interested in having a boyfriend AT ALL and was quite relieved that at the last minute, the boy in question decided to remain with his current girlfriend. Thank goodness. The girl is one of Audrey's friends, and who knows what kind of first grade catfight would have broken out if things had been different?)

Monday, December 04, 2006

Warning! Offensive pictures!

But they don't really come until the end.

Someone sent me a link to this on a bulletin board; I guess it's been passed around in email for a while. Although I don't get on a soapbox about this much here, I like this enough to repost it. Also, some of the formatting is a little off; I did try to fix it, but unsuccessfully. The message is not altered.


I'm thankful for not having boobs thrown in my face all the time by offensive and indecent breastfeeding mothers like the ones below." Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting
wait... well, this is a bad example. let's try again...
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hmmm... just a minute. surely i can find better ones than these...
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eh... still not racey enough. i'll check one more time.
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thats better. LOOK AT THAT! i see about an inch of boob! totally disgusting.
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ugh! look at that indecency!! she must be from some third world country to be exposed like that!!
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now thats just... there's no words to describe how innappropriate that is. something needs to be done!!






but why stop at breastfeeding women? there are boobs everywhere. beware! if you thought the above photos were offensive, you WILL DEFINITELY be offended by the photos below.








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not this one, tho. this was in plain view on newstands and in mailboxes in 19 countries world wide!
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not this one either. this one actually won an award!
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oh, and i guess this ones fine too, since everyone knows you can't sell jeans without someone being topless.
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or beer, for that matter!
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or sunglasses.
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or movie tickets.
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or CDs...









you know what? maybe i'm crazy, but i think that someone mixed up some photos here. the first batch are offensive, but the second batch are just fine and dandy???









people who live in glass bras:
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shouldn't throw stones:
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Postscript from Andrea: I hear lots of people say they don't mind mothers breastfeeding in public as long as they "cover up", but even that mindset tends to annoy me. First of all...older babies don't like being covered up and will throw the blanket off anyway. Second of all, it still implies there is something offensive about breastfeeding. Now, I'm not likely to be showing much skin myself; I try to make sure my shirt comes down over my breast. But that's my preference. And if some moms feel more comfortable covering up, that's OK too. I just don't like the implication that breastfeeding should be something private, something secret.

And don't get me started on the people who think women should go nurse their babies in a public restroom. How gross is that? Am I really supposed to sit on the toilet while I nurse my child? Or even the floor? How many adults would like to eat their meal in a restroom?

Here in Indiana, as in some other states, there is actually a law on the books guaranteeing a mother and child's right to nurse in public.
Not withstanding any other law, a woman may breastfeed her child anywhere the woman has a right to be. Source: Indiana Code 16-35-6-1 Chapter 6, Sec. 7
End of rant :)